As someone who’s spent years coaching couples on prayer and strengthening marriages, I can’t stress enough how crucial prayer is for a thriving relationship. But let’s be real – making prayer a daily habit isn’t always easy. That’s why I’m here to guide you through the process of turning prayer into a natural, daily part of your marriage.
If you have ever wondered how to deepen your connection with your spouse, you’re in the right place. With these practical and effective strategies shared in this post, you can weave prayer into the fabric of your daily life together.
Whether you’re newlyweds or have been married for decades, whether prayer is already part of your routine or completely new territory, this post is for you. Remember Prayer is more than a religious ritual – it’s a powerful tool that can strengthen, heal, and rejuvenate your marriage. But let’s be honest: in our busy lives, making prayer a daily habit can be challenging.
Why Prayer Is a Game-Changer for Marriage
Before we get into the how-to, let’s talk about why prayer is such a game-changer for marriages.
When you pray together, you’re not just talking to God – you’re opening up a spiritual connection between you, your spouse, and the Creator of the universe. It’s like having a direct line to the ultimate relationship counselor!
Prayer enhances communication, helps resolve conflicts, and brings you closer as a couple. As it says in Matthew 18:20, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
When you pray together, you’re inviting God into your marriage in a powerful way.
Key to the Transformative Impact of Prayer on Your Marriage
Prayer isn’t just a religious exercise – it’s a powerful tool that can revolutionize your marriage.
When you and your spouse pray together, you’re doing something truly special. You’re creating a sacred space where both of you can be vulnerable, honest, and united in purpose. It’s like hitting a reset button on your relationship, reminding you both of what really matters.
Think of prayer as a spiritual gym for your marriage. Just as working out strengthens your muscles, regular prayer strengthens your bond. It helps you develop patience, empathy, and understanding. It gives you a shared language to express your hopes, fears, and dreams.
Moreover, prayer shifts your focus from the daily grind to a bigger picture. It reminds you that your marriage is part of something greater – God’s plan for your lives. As Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
So, when you pray together, you’re not just talking to each other or to God. You’re aligning your marriage with a higher purpose, inviting divine wisdom into your decisions, and building a foundation that can weather any storm.
How to Make Prayer a Daily Habit in Your Marriage
Are you ready to unlock the transformative power of prayer in your relationship? With open hearts, you can nurture your marriage through the simple yet profound act of praying together.
Start Small: Build the Prayer Habit – Take Baby Steps
Look, I get it. The idea of praying together might feel a bit weird at first. Maybe you’re thinking: “But we’re so busy!” “We can barely find time to eat dinner together, let alone pray!” Or maybe the thought of praying out loud makes you want to crawl under the covers and hide.
Don’t worry – I’ve got you covered. The key is to start small and build from there.
So here’s the thing – you don’t need to turn into prayer monks overnight. This isn’t about hour-long prayer marathons or speaking long hours in tongues.” It’s about taking baby steps towards connecting with each other and with God.
Start ridiculously small. I’m talking even just 30secs before bed. Just a quick “Thanks for today, God. Help us sleep well.” That’s it. You’d be amazed at what even that tiny habit can do.
The goal here isn’t to impress anyone – not your spouse, not God, not your pastor. It’s just about showing up consistently. The goal is consistency, not length.
Think of it like going to the gym. You don’t start by bench-pressing 300 pounds. You start with what you can manage and build from there.
So forget about length or eloquence. Just focus on doing something, anything, regularly. Maybe it’s a quick “bless this food” at dinner. Or a “keep us safe” as you head out the door in the morning.Â
Remember, you’re not aiming for perfection here. You’re aiming for progress. So cut yourselves some slack, start super small, and just keep showing up. Before you know it, praying together will feel as natural as brushing your teeth.
6 Practical Tips for Consistent Prayer
Set a time: Choose a time that works for both of you. Maybe it’s right after dinner or first thing in the morning. Consistency is key here.
Keep it short: Remember, you don’t need to pray for an hour. Even 5 minutes can make a huge difference in your marriage.
Take turns: One day you lead, the next day your spouse does. This keeps things balanced and helps both of you feel involved.
Be real: Don’t worry about sounding “holy” or using fancy words. God wants to hear your heart, not a performance.
Include gratitude: Always try to thank God for something. It helps you focus on the positives in your marriage and life.
Be specific: Instead of general prayers like “bless our marriage,” try praying about specific issues or goals you have.
Some More Creative Ways to Incorporate Prayer
If traditional prayer methods aren’t working for you, don’t be afraid to get creative!
- Written prayers: Try writing letters to God about your marriage and sharing them with each other.
- Prayer journaling: Keep a shared journal where you write prayers and reflections.
- Use prayer apps or guides: There are tons of great apps and books out there with prayer prompts for couples.
The Long-term Benefits of a Prayer Habit for Couples
Stick with it, and you’ll start to see some amazing benefits in your marriage:
- Stronger spiritual connection: As you pray together, you’ll grow closer to God and to each other.
- Improved communication: Prayer opens up channels of honest, deep communication.
- Increased intimacy and trust: There’s something incredibly bonding about sharing your deepest hopes and fears with God and each other.
Remember, Ephesians 6:18 encourages us to “pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.” This includes praying for and with your spouse!
As you work on creating prayer as a daily habit in your marriage, remember that it’s not about perfection. It’s about progress and consistency. Some days you might forget, or life might get in the way. That’s okay! The important thing is to keep coming back to it.
Start small, be consistent, and watch as God works in your marriage through the power of prayer. Trust me, as someone who’s seen countless marriages transformed through prayer, I can tell you it’s worth every effort.
So, are you ready to give it a shot? Your marriage adventure with God is just beginning, and I’m excited for you to see how prayer can revolutionize your relationship. Remember, a marriage rooted in prayer is like a house built on a rock – it can withstand any storm life throws at it.
Let Us Pray
“Lord, we invite You into our marriage. Help us to make prayer a daily habit, to seek You together, and to grow closer to You and to each other.
Guide us, strengthen us, and transform our relationship through the power of prayer. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Now go forth and pray together! Your marriage will thank you for it.